Marriage

Technically, marriage means that two people, man an woman, are gathered by the holy matrimony. After doing some rituals, they will be legal to each other. they are legal in both eyes, nation's eyes, and religion's eyes.

Not so long ago, a friend of mine asked me if my folks are being so fussy about me being still single in my age now. FYI, I'm 31, going to 32. And single.

I told her quite frankly, that my parents never confronted me with such thing like that. Not that they don't care about my well being. I knot they do. I also know that they will never do such thing like pushing me or being so fussy about my marriage plan (just yet) ;p

I, myself, am still quite comfortable with my condition. If someone asks me " Don't you want to get married, considering your age, now?"

I will be answering "Well, to some extent, I can't tell"

What I mean is, right now I'm OK with myself. I'm OK with my being husbandless or childless. Well the part of childless is not quite right. I wanna children of my own, but to have children requires husband, doesn't it? It's really confusing..^_^

What can I say?

In our society, when you reach a certain kind of age, let's say, 23 up, people will expect you to be married. They will start being fussy when you reach 25, fussier when you reach 30, and much fussier when you reach 35.

Do I care about it?

Lucky me, my closest people don't belong to the fussy ones. Since they never cornered me with the obligation to get married in my age now, I'm doing fine.

Some people had asked me the question, though. "When are you going to tie the knot?" "Don't forget to invite me when you get married, will you?" Arrrrrgghhh....

Usually, my answer is very sweet. I will say "Soon. Pray for me, will you?"

Funny thing happened, when I had a chat with someone through a chatting facility at the internet.

Buddy : Hi

Ve : Hi

Buddy : Asl?

Ve : u 1st

Buddy : 28M

Ve : me 31F

Buddy : wow

Ve : yeah

Buddy : ar u muslim?

Ve : yeah

Ve : and proud of it

Buddy : me too

Buddy : married?

Ve : nope

Ve : still single

Ve : why?

Buddy : Why aren't you married?

Buddy : u ar 31 already

Ve : So what if I'm 31

(irritated)

Buddy : don't u want to get married?

Ve : do I need to get married?

Buddy : What?

Buddy : U said dat u ar a muslim, right?

Ve : yeah, then?

Buddy : U know dat getting married is a must for a muslim

Ve : So?

Buddy : So..

Buddy : come back 2 my que

Buddy : why aren't u married?



Whoaaa...!!!

Capee deee.....!!!!!



"Do I need a husband now?"



I'm getting married one day. Dunno when.

But, if I ask myself, " do I really really need a husband now? "

The answer is....



Dunno...



For me, marriage or being married isn't the answer of every question. Not that if you're married you'll reach the top of the world. Uh, maybe yes, for a while.

But for me, marriage means a whole lot of responsibilities. Getting married, then be ready with all the risks, the challenges, the struggle..



Am I prepared with that? Won't I be screwing it up? Do I dare to take a chance?



I believe that GOD has prepared someone for me out there. I dunno when HE will meet me with that person. But I don't need to rush anything. Maybe HE just wait until I'm ready...



Till then, I'm happy with myself now...

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